I've been trying to work out how to say this for almost 2 years now, since Fanime 2011. Still don't really know how to say it.
What really prompted this first visibly happened at Fanime when one of my roomies arrived at the room I had booked and then claimed that I had "tricked her".
Other, similar but more uncomfortable issues came with my roomies for AUSA last year.
I present myself as female online because that's what I really am
. It is not my fault that a birth defect makes me physically appear otherwise
. It makes me more depressed and uncomfortable then it would almost anyone I meet.
and it isn't like I'm secret about it – the only people I don't go out of my way to say anything about it are those which make me feel it would be unsafe to do so. more here
I avoid reflective resurfaces and photos whenever possible because of this – it makes me depressed to do otherwise. It's also why I tend to avoid cosplaying at cons when I'm not
with at least one of my (few) friends. People assume I'm cross playing (when I'm not) and the comments they make based on that assumption make me uncomfortable when I don't have someone there to support me. :/
I guess being "socially awkward" doesn't help much.
I don't know what else to say right now…